Alexander Lajer.
Integrative Therapist.
North London.
I'm an integrative therapist working with children, adolescents and young adults across North London. I do this work not in spite of what I've been through, but because of it.
How I came to this work.
I didn't always know I'd end up here. But looking back, it makes complete sense.
Growing up, I didn't have the support that many young people have access to today. I wasn't understood by teachers, by the adults around me, or by myself. I was labelled a naughty boy, when really I was a child whose world felt unsafe, who didn't know how to trust, and who had no language for what he was carrying. I became isolated, disconnected from the world and from myself. It was a very lonely place to be.
To manage that inner world, I developed ways of coping that made sense at the time, but came at a cost.
It took me a long time, and the right kind of support, to find my way through. That journey, and what I learned about being truly met by another person along the way, is part of why I do this work. Not in spite of what I went through, but because of it.
Credentials.
Registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, bound by their Ethical Framework.
Trained to Level 5 in Psychotherapy and Counselling - accredited by the BACP.
Level 5 CPCAB qualification in working therapeutically with children and young people - accredited by the BACP.
Years delivering therapeutic support in both primary and secondary schools - a grounded understanding of how young people present in educational settings.
Worked with clients carrying complex presentations at Portobello Behavioural Health and in private practice, including substance misuse, schizophrenia, and neurodiversity. Struggle rarely looks the way people expect.
Trauma-informed care · Creative & play-based therapy · Animal-assisted therapy · Working with neurodivergence.
I work under regular clinical supervision, as required by the BACP, alongside professional indemnity insurance and an Enhanced DBS check. It keeps the work safe, accountable and reflective.
An integrative approach - pieced together for each young person.
I'm genuinely curious about what it's like to be you - your world, the way things feel from the inside. Whatever you bring is met without judgement and without rush. I go at your pace. Always.
Person-centred
The relationship is the work. Empathy, warmth, and the freedom to be honest are non-negotiable.
Psychodynamic
We notice patterns - repeated relationships, defended feelings, the past that lives in the present.
Creative & play-based
For younger clients especially, words come second. Drawing, sand tray, and play hold what conversation can't yet.
Trauma-informed
Pace, regulation and safety first. The nervous system has its own intelligence, and we listen to it.
Attachment-aware
How we learned to relate is how we relate. We work with - not against - that early blueprint.
Animal-assisted
When chosen, Fonsie brings warmth, regulation, and a wordless bridge into connection.